Love Aesthetics

November 11, 2015

THE NEW TOGETHER / WORKING WITH YOUR OTHER HALF



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Romeo/
short sleeve
trousers
sweatshirt

Ivania/
sweatshirt
bomber

images, Ivania & Romeo
words, Ivania
*Post made in collaboration
with Calvin Klein

Business and pleasure. Partners in every way.
Surprised reactions are often ‘don’t you get sick of being together so much?’.
But if you look at human history, the most common model of organisation are family businesses; to work together with the closest people around you to achieve one common goal. With an exception of the last decades in the western world. Lidewij Edelkoort and my mother Thera van Osch (who is a gender equality expert) really and literally hit home when they speak about a new society, where (chosen) family works together closely, gender roles are no longer relevant and all work and care is equally divided.

A very visible result of a life without specific gender related tasks is a more similar and sometimes even shared wardrobe. Basics like sweatshirts, white tees and even some unisex scents (which by the way smell slightly different on each of us) are on rotation between us. These pieces from the most recent Calvin Klein capsule collection ‘Black Series’ are defenitely part of that.





Ivania /
Separating work and private life is something that I never really get. The living room sometimes becomes the office and the office sometimes becomes the living room. If you’re going to spend such a big chunk of your life working, you might as well build a team of friends that you love being around with. Everything is more open and honest. I love the fact that we’re building something together. It’s not even about physically being together all the time, but we’re adding to the same bigger picture. Although for me it is impossible not to think about work or really separate work and private life, I’ve learned that the most important thing is to put the relationship on the first place. If there is ever a conflict between the two – work is always subordinate. Our motto is work hard – play hard: which is a great motivator to get more done.




Romeo /
You really know each other best, you know eachother’s strengths and weaknesses, you know what to expect. With non-chosen colleagues, often everyone has different agendas. Instead, we are both contributing to one joined effort – which makes you work harder.
In the beginning it was a bit difficult to get into this new dynamic because now you have to regard your time together as work also. You can’t let personal issues influence your workflow. But after a little while it comes natural and you learn to solve personal conflicts faster.
Working together with my girlfriend is great because I get fuck breaks because you get to set your own terms and times, if you have a kid like us you get to see her grow up – and at the same time set an example for work ethics as she sees us being busy with all kinds of stuff. If you’re going to work with your other half, go on field trips, change environments; schedule a workday somewhere else like a library in another city, a new coffee shop or have your lunchbreak outside ‘the office’.




16 responses to “THE NEW TOGETHER / WORKING WITH YOUR OTHER HALF”

  1. Naomi says:

    i loved this. you are such an inspiration to me.

  2. Millie says:

    Really love this post, I saw you answer someone’s question on tumblr and I’m really glad that you answered them and created the post! You always have time for your followers 🙂 x

    Millie x
    Queenmillie.Blogspot.Com

  3. amazing – i love your outlooks on the subject and you create the most amazing things.

    elisha-mae I wear this?
    http://www.elisha-mae.co.uk

  4. Rachel says:

    aw this post was really inspiring to read. love your view on working with your boyfriend, also your photos are always amazing!

    rachel // Style Soup

  5. Kelvin says:

    Modern family
    Goals

  6. NIKA says:

    You two are such an inspiration! This post was one of my favourite!

  7. Laura says:

    Great post! You both are inspiring

    XX
    http://www.Lauralexo.com

  8. Nathalie says:

    Interessant zicht op het samenwerken. Doet me denken aan An Vandevorst en Filip Arickx van AF Vandevorst. Ook een winnend duo.

    https://www.vaniitas.com

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  10. Baia Ali says:

    I love it! The pictures are so beautiful 🙂 like aways!

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  11. interessante visie wat betreft het samen werken met iemand die je van heel dichtbij kent. ik heb het altijd al een intrigerend idee gevonden, maar vond het tegelijk ook beangstigend want je wit nu eenmaal ook niet botsen op punten die fataal zouden kunnen zijn voor jullie relatie, hiervoor hebben mijn ouders me altijd al bang gemaakt. maar sinds kort maak ik kunst projecten met mijn allerbeste vriendin en heb ik gemerkt dat het ons persoonlijk, niet perse vriendschappelijk, helpt vooruit te streven, juist omdat we onszelf durven bloot te stellen en eerlijk zijn aan elkaar, ook eerlijk zijn in het bekritiseren en daardoor juist ook het belang van die kritiekpunten niet wegwuiven, en ze durven aanpakken. Ik vind het alvast ook een verrijkende ervaring. En of je elkaar daardoor beu zou kunnen worden, betwijfel ik, ja je hebt soms ruimte voor jezelf nodig, maar dat is in elke situatie. (dit was wat ik dus even wou meedelen) nogmaals, interessante topic.

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  13. Kasia K says:

    Always had strong belief that professional side of individual must be kept separate from love/personal life. But you guys!!! Changing my belief very drastically!!! Liove the Romeos, crossed out line! :)))

    Best wishes both of you from London

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