images, Ivania & Romeo
*Post made in collaboration
with Calvin Klein
Business and pleasure. Partners in every way.
Surprised reactions are often ‘don’t you get sick of being together so much?’.
But if you look at human history, the most common model of organisation are family businesses; to work together with the closest people around you to achieve one common goal. With an exception of the last decades in the western world. Lidewij Edelkoort and my mother Thera van Osch (who is a gender equality expert) really and literally hit home when they speak about a new society, where (chosen) family works together closely, gender roles are no longer relevant and all work and care is equally divided.
A very visible result of a life without specific gender related tasks is a more similar and sometimes even shared wardrobe. Basics like sweatshirts, white tees and even some unisex scents (which by the way smell slightly different on each of us) are on rotation between us. These pieces from the most recent Calvin Klein capsule collection ‘Black Series’ are defenitely part of that.
Separating work and private life is something that I never really get. The living room sometimes becomes the office and the office sometimes becomes the living room. If you’re going to spend such a big chunk of your life working, you might as well build a team of friends that you love being around with. Everything is more open and honest. I love the fact that we’re building something together. It’s not even about physically being together all the time, but we’re adding to the same bigger picture. Although for me it is impossible not to think about work or really separate work and private life, I’ve learned that the most important thing is to put the relationship on the first place. If there is ever a conflict between the two – work is always subordinate. Our motto is work hard – play hard: which is a great motivator to get more done.
You really know each other best, you know eachother’s strengths and weaknesses, you know what to expect. With non-chosen colleagues, often everyone has different agendas. Instead, we are both contributing to one joined effort – which makes you work harder.
In the beginning it was a bit difficult to get into this new dynamic because now you have to regard your time together as work also. You can’t let personal issues influence your workflow. But after a little while it comes natural and you learn to solve personal conflicts faster.
Working together with my girlfriend is great
because I get fuck breaks because you get to set your own terms and times, if you have a kid like us you get to see her grow up – and at the same time set an example for work ethics as she sees us being busy with all kinds of stuff. If you’re going to work with your other half, go on field trips, change environments; schedule a workday somewhere else like a library in another city, a new coffee shop or have your lunchbreak outside ‘the office’.